How to Propose - Part Three
Step Three: Will You Marry Me?
"Love is the voice under all silences, the hope which has no opposite in fear; the strength so strong mere force is feebleness: the truth more first than sun, more last than star."
Your plan has been detailed and everything is falling into place. Only one things remains to be said: Will you marry me?
Asking For Permission
Asking the parents for blessing to marry is not as common as it once was, but it can be a gesture of love and respect that will strengthen the bonds your family shares. For some, asking permission will be considered essential while for others it may simply be a nice thing to do. If you don’t ask permission at all, just be sure it’s the right choice for all parties involved. Carefully consider who you ask. Will it be dad? Will it be mum, or both? Treat it like a miniature proposal if you can. Take them out or treat them to a special occasion. You may also wish to document the moment for your future wedding. A photo or a video can easily become a treasured memento of your memory, and a beautiful thing to share with your partner after you propose.
Planning Your Words
Whatever you say and however you say it, words from the heart will always be filled with meaning. If waxing lyrical is not your style then keep it simple and true. If you are struggling with inspiration, research famous love poems and quotes. If creativity comes naturally to you, perhaps your own sonnet or love poem will surmise your feelings. Write your proposal down and read it aloud to yourself. Memorising word for word may not be necessary, you may not end up using them at all, but it will not hurt to reinforce your feelings and remind yourself why you are asking this special question in the first place. Whatever you choose to say and however you choose to say it, be sure to finish with the question will you marry me?
Practice Your Wedding Proposal
If you are confident, wing it! But it is natural to feel some nervousness about your proposal. The more you practice what you will say and how you will say it, the more confident you will feel. If you are able, make yourself familiar with the place you plan to propose. You may even wish to rehearse the event with a friend or family member, remembering that it is important to pick a person you trust. Will they criticise what you say, and would the criticism be welcome? Will they be able to keep your special occasion secret, or will they give the surprise away?
Should you arrive at your big moment and find all plan and practise has flown out of the window, then just speak the truth. When it comes from the heart it will always be beautiful.